'Your son picked me, deal with it!': Son Uninvites Mother to Wedding After She Expresses Her Disapproval of His Future Bride

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Sienna Varady
Jan 15, 2024 7:00 PM EST

No one warns us that when we finally find that one special person, our prince charming if you wish, we don't only marry him, but his entire family. This could turn out to be a godsend or our greatest nightmare!

The story below is an account of a young woman who, to put it mildly, does not get along with her future mother-in-law. Things take a bad turn, though, when MIL's son declares he wants to permanently end his relationship with his mother because he has finally had enough of her antics. 'You disrespect my fiance, you disrespect me, and therefore, you have no place in my life', is how he interprets the situation. The problem is that, despite his good intentions, he also wants to call off their upcoming wedding and elope, which OP doesn't really feel like doing…

So, if you're curious to find out what transpired between OP and MIL to drive the fiance to his breaking point, read the story below! And when you've finished scrolling, check out the story about a MIL who insists that her future son-in-law pays for the wedding!

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    I (f35) and fiancé (m30) are considering cancelling our wedding and eloping instead because of MIL MIL has never tried to have a positive relationship with me. She makes sure I'm not included in conversations, belittles my achievements & talks down to me.
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    AITA for refusing to speak to MIL and cancelling our wedding?
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    I (f35) and fiancé (m30) are considering cancelling our wedding and eloping instead because of MIL MIL has never tried to have a positive relationship with me. She makes sure I'm not included in conversations, belittles my achievements & talks down to me.
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    Things escalated when I was planning fiancés 30th. MIL fought me on every detail and accused me of not knowing my fiancé at all. (I planned a golf weekend away for him and his family) he loves golf.
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    Fiancé confronted MIL and asked why she doesn't like me? MIL admitted she doesn't like me. (Doesn't like my partner driving to events, didn't like it took me a month to find employment when I moved to a different town to be with fiancé. Fiancé receives calls
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    and texts from MIL daily. If he doesn't respond, she blames me. Fiancé told her if she doesn't stop this behaviour toward me he will no longer speak with her. I agreed to meet with MIL to smooth things over and try to move
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    forward. MIL never took me up on it. But things seemed ok for a time. Fast forward to fiancés brothers wedding. Wedding day arrives and we were to be at the venue at 4pm. Five minutes to 2pm fiancé receives call from MIL saying the family photo
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    shoot is in 5 minutes. We hadn't been told of a family photo shoot? MIL demands we arrive at 2pm for it. We frantically get ready and arrive at the house where the wedding was. There was never a photo shoot planned. MIL comes out and tries to hand me boys suit shirts to iron. I refused.
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    MIL snaps at me asking where my son is. He was never coming. He's at the hotel. MIL continues stating everyone thought he would be there. I respond he was never coming and we RSVP just us. She has been told multiple times he wasn't coming.
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    The ceremony is over & I started to have guests come up to me asking where my son is. I don't even know these peoples names. I tell them he's at the hotel. Looks of disgust are thrown at me. My new friends stopped talking to me. I realised
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    these people were being told my son was at the hotel but not telling them how old he is (teenager)The wedding was a place of ridicule and disgust on me. Christmas Day at MIL house. Her family scurry away from me on
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    arrival, refusing to hug or greet me. One man, whom I had met once 2 years ago, aggressively accused me of leaving my son alone on Christmas Day. (Son was at fathers place this year). The rumour has continued and now not only does the MIL hate me, so do her family.
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    I made up an excuse to announce the fact my son was a teenager whom just finished his first year of high school at the top of his class. Everyones jaw dropped. None of them knew he is a teen. MIL hurried out of the room.
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    Now fiancé wants to cancel wedding and elope because of MIL. Fiancé is demanding I speak with MIL one last time in order for him to cut her off. AITA for not wanting to confront MIL and for cancelling the wedding?
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    archetyping101.9 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [89] I'd reword this. You're still getting married and possibly skipping the wedding and reception. NTA. But is this what you want? Since your fiance backs you, why can't you have a wedding (IF that's what you two want) and
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    just not invite his mom and other people? You two still deserve to be celebrated and I sure AF wouldn't give up a day I wanted because of her. She hates you. Your partner needs to get a
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    handle on this. Either he lays down the law and cuts them out or I suggest breaking up. My partner and I went to counseling over this and you're either a team or you're not. Even if he maintained a relationship
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    and they kept sh ng on you, he's letting you down. The only way he could have his family in his life AND you is if he actually created firm boundaries with his family. For example, sitting his mom down and saying "hey I know
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    you don't like (your name - let's say it's Beth). Beth isn't going anywhere. I love Beth. You don't have to love Beth. But you absolutely do have to respect me and my choice. You will not trash talk, belittle, disrespect or do anything to Beth. If
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    you ever talk disrespectfully or rudely to Beth or about Beth, you will not have me in your life. So if you decide hating her is more important than having me in your life, that's your decision and you will face the consequence
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    of that because I won't tolerate you disrespecting her. Are we clear? This is coming from me. Do not blame Beth for anything. I am telling you what I will not tolerate about how you
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    treat the person I love." This way she knows the boundary. It's not controlling her, it's telling her that her actions and choices will result in consequences.
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    PD_319 hr. ago A hole Aficionado [15] NTA. At least your fiance is on your side. Elope, get married and live well.
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    Fearless_Ad1685 · 9 hr. ago NTA. But don't cancel the wedding if a wedding is what you and your fiance want. If you do have a wedding, only invite the people that support both of you. Don't invite
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    anyone who doesn't support both of you. If that means, no MIL, she'll just have to live with the consequences of her actions
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    gotogodot 9 hr. ago A ole Aficionado [14] Absolutely agree with fiancé. Elope. Use the money for an amazing honeymoon and don't tell MIL where you're going. NTA.
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    pray21702 8 hr. ago He is wanting you to be his meat shield so mommy will hate you and not him. I would worry more about some pre-marital counseling because he can't seem to talk to mommy on his own.
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